Purpuse Isn’t What You DO for Others

Exploring the beliefs we hold—and the ones we’re ready to release.

This is a question I’ve been meditating on, journaling about, and exploring for years.
The answer keeps shifting as I grow—peeling back the layers placed on me by society and discovering more of who I truly am. I don’t have a final answer for myself yet, and I don’t pretend to have yours either. At best, I can help you uncover a sliver of truth behind your own purpose.

A Morning of Reflection

This morning, as I began thinking about the day ahead, I felt excited for an upcoming session with a client. I thanked God for the ability to work with energy and support her on her journey back to herself.

During my usual tarot and oracle card pull, the message came through clearly:
Believe in your abilities. Stay clear-headed. Offer insights and ideas. Celebrate how far you’ve come.

I also intuitively selected a few crystals before my meditation. Curious about the energy they held, I looked them up using ChatGPT. While the messages resonated, something still felt incomplete. I knew I needed to go deeper.

The Real Question

I asked myself:
What’s really holding me back from fully believing in the gifts God has blessed me with?

The answer surprised me:
I believe I need to fix people. I believe my worth is tied to solving others’ problems. I am valuable if I can help someone.

Whoa.
That belief has shaped so much of my life—and it’s been heavy. It’s time to set it down.

The Body Keeps the Belief

All beliefs carry energy—emotional, physical, and mental—and our bodies hold on to them tightly. I know this one lives deep in my shoulders and hips. It’s ancient. I’ve likely carried it for lifetimes.

I won’t release it in a single meditation, but now that I see it, I can work with it. I can notice it in real time and begin to shift how I respond.

But What If Helping Is Your Job?

You might be thinking:

“Great for you—but I’m a nurse, a doctor, a therapist, a mother, a spouse, a teacher… helping is what I do.”

Yes—supporting others may be part of your path. But consider this:
When you try to fix someone or make them see what you see, how often does that truly work?

Even with small children—who depend on you—there is still a wild and sacred independence within them. They are their own beings. And so are you.

Your Purpose Isn’t to Fix Anyone

Here’s what I know for certain:
Your purpose is not to fix people.

If your sense of purpose is rooted in what you can do for others, you may be missing the deeper truth.

When you live your purpose—your real, soul-aligned purpose—others will absolutely benefit. They’ll feel the ripple effects of the inner work you’ve done. But that’s not the point.

That’s just the byproduct of you showing up fully, as your whole self.

Try It On for Yourself

Don’t just take my word for it. Ask yourself:

“Am I here to (fill in the blank)?”

Then pause. Listen.

What does your gut say?
Does the answer land deep within you—or is it a belief you’ve been carrying, ready now to be set down?

You are not here to carry what isn’t yours.
You are here to be fully you.